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Before I start off, I would like to say that the events of the past months have shown me the value this community has to me. I bear no ill will towards anyone involved in this, and after my ban has ended or been suspended, I ask that everyone involved in this tries their best to feel the same way.
I would also like to ask admins and community members reading my recollection of events equally to lia's and anyone else involved.
Starting off, here is my explanation of the current situation and what has lead up to it between me and Lia.
The situation started developing sometime mid February, when she unfriended me for something I had said about her. The day after, I sent her a youtube message saying I was sorry for what happened, because I was. Lia and I had been on good terms for such a long time, and seeing our friendship end like that was not something I wanted to happen.
Hey lia, sorry for yesterday. Sorry for going too far and hurting you like that. It was stupid and I should've known better.
I appreciate that you've always been a kind friend to me, and I hope we can put this behind us.
I'll seeya soon.
Kaiuu
I'm not even sure if Lia received the youtube message, but I began to notice a change in the way that she treated me. I barely said anything to her for a long time after. I felt since I was the one who made the rude comment, it was my job to befriend her once again because we were so close before. Whether or not she took note of my trying to make amends with her, she began making quick, snide remarks. Whether this was because she felt as if she were greater because of my apology, or she didn't mean it at all, this still occurred.
The most clear and simple example of this was sometime mid february when I asked on the mic, "what class should I play?' My response from lia was in chat as I can clearly remember "anything to cut yourself with." I was confused when reading it, especially since she was at the time an admin on trial. it seemed odd. I had never heard her say anything like that before, an I had no idea if she was just joking around, but the nature of the comment struck me nonetheless. I have no doubt chatlogs of that day will show the remark if available.
During March, I joined the csn highlander team as a spy sub. Around the 30th, I got called into a game to sub for Argent and we played the match. Overall, we did quite alright for the team we were playing against, but after the match in the mumble, I talked for a solid bit about stuff we could improve on. I didn't say it in a way that was threatening or rude, and it was just normal postgame breakdown stuff. I talked a bit about how we should have the demo play near lia more, lia giving mothership more buffs so he could dominate sniper v sniper, and just overall pushing stuff. None of this was said specifically at one person.
I think it's agreeable from the people there in the mumble the information given was useful and applicable. I never said anything about my situation with her in the mumble as well.
However from normal highlander criticism, I found I was off her friends list again, which was quite puzzling.
Shortly before the ban, she readded me and we had a heart to heart and sorted things out. It just felt really great for things to finally move on.
You can view the conversation here -
http://pastebin.com/EFLMJPaZ
( sorry i had to cut some parts out and i had to type it from my phone but its the same essentially)
This leads to the current situation. It was on friday I believe, when we were playing dustbowl offense. I asked for an uber to take out a sentry gun, and lia, a medic with uber said "what If I don't want to uber you?". In a jokingly serious tone I replied "You're going to uber me whether you like it or not!".
I think it is agreeable that this comment was not offensive in nature, nor sexual, nor meant to harm or insult in any way. Unlike back in february, It was just normal server banter. If I this had been said this to anyone besides her, this wouldn't have been taken as "sexual harassment" - because it wasn't.
When I received the message I had been banned, I was genuinely shocked, and felt as if there had been some kind of mistake.
I would like to mention the evidence presented for the ban was, aside from krieg's comment, lia's word. There was no demo or stv coming from this or material evidence to back it up. I understand krieger is a senior admin, but he was not present when the second comment was supposedly made. His conjectures were not of the supposed harassment as he was not present.
After the dustbowl game, we played badwater. I cannot recall, but someone brought up religion, which lead to lia mentioning her studies and career path in theology, also pointing out that she was agnostic. As you can probably guess, this caused a large server conversation. I said a few things, but I generally stayed out of it.
It is worth mentioning that during this, a community member said something along the lines of, "not meaning to be rude or anything, but where exactly would you find employment for a major in theology?". I said after that, "you're an agnostic right?". I can't remember lia saying anything over voice chat for the rest of that map. Coincidentally afterwards, she left halfway through.
Now I am not saying this is the reason behind everything, but I thought it would be with mentioning afterwards.
It was agreed between us in our steam conversation that if anyone of us said anything that bothered the other, we would inform eachother of it. After this, I received no message or indication until saturday evening when I tried to log on.
Back to the previous, if Lia found it or the comment offensive, there was no mute or slap or verbal response of any kind that I had done something that she didn't like. You could argue that the past steam messages constituted as such, but it is general practice to give some sort of mute or warning serverside, and if this was felt too personally not to be serverside, I thought I would hear something from her in messages.
That's all I have to say. If you need me to clarify something or talk to me one on one, I would be open to that too.
Thanks for reading, and I hope me and everyone involved can put this behind us.
Later all.
And hopefully you now understand the problem. And if you want weird shit I recommend furrypound.
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