Last night was interesting for me.....

[BoB Dolen]

Keep it short for now but I'll explain the whole thing later.

Found out last night that my fiance (been together over 4 years) cheated on me a few days ago with one of her dad's best friends who was like a "father" apparently to her growing up and to boot the guy is married with 2 kids.

Awesome night!

[Failhorse]

Damaged goods. Stay the hell away. If you really want to go back. Wait til your both in your mid 50s.

[BoB Dolen]

Damaged goods. Stay the hell away. If you really want to go back. Wait til your both in your mid 50s.

Oh I'm cleaning I hands of her entirely, I don't deal with cheaters at all and would happily let her bleed to death on the sidewalk if I was walking down the street.....just weird how things work since her dad got cheated on when she was little. Think she needs to see some help.

[Sirnak]

That's completely awful and even more unfair for you.

You'll most likely be able to find a more trustworthy woman somewhere out there. At least she told you she cheated on you, which is at least the minimum she could do after that (unless you learned it another way... which I really hope is not the case...).

If it can make you feel any better, I have been kicked out of my appartment (effective in something like 1 month) and I have nowhere to live on University campus or even outside yet as almost all appartments should be filled throughout the entire city by now.

Oh, life. Sometimes, you're a bitch.

[Guy]

I know how you feel. My ex-partner of almost 6 years cheated on me several times.

He got sick from messing around it seems, and got HIV from one of his random pickups. Then proceeds to blame me for giving it to him. I am not sick. He was so angry to find out I was negative he started yelling in the counselor's room.

Yea.

Being single is great!
Just hang in there, it is always ruff at the beginning, and as time passes she won't even cross your mind anymore.

Edit: Man, woman, homosexual, heterosexual, or bisexual... always practice safe sex, and have proper health screenings every 6 months if you are sexually active. It is about taking care of yourself.

[BoB Dolen]

You'll most likely be able to find a more trustworthy woman somewhere out there. At least she told you she cheated on you, which is at least the minimum she could do after that (unless you learned it another way... which I really hope is not the case...).

Oh she didn't tell me, she doesn't even know I currently know.

If it can make you feel any better, I have been kicked out of my appartment (effective in something like 1 month) and I have nowhere to live on University campus or even outside yet as almost all appartments should be filled throughout the entire city by now.

Oh, life. Sometimes, you're a bitch.

I was homeless for a couple months when I was 17, shit sucks lol. Sorry happened to you.

[mrProtagonist]

Know what that's like. I experienced the learning on New Year's Eve. Great night.

[Toaster]

That's completely awful and even more unfair for you.

You'll most likely be able to find a more trustworthy woman somewhere out there. At least she told you she cheated on you, which is at least the minimum she could do after that (unless you learned it another way... which I really hope is not the case...).

If it can make you feel any better, I have been kicked out of my appartment (effective in something like 1 month) and I have nowhere to live on University campus or even outside yet as almost all appartments should be filled throughout the entire city by now.

Oh, life. Sometimes, you're a bitch.

You could come live with me if you could avoid my parents finding out

Edit: and also do my french devoirs ^^

[Ackybur]

Keep it short for now but I'll explain the whole thing later.

Found out last night that my fiance (been together over 4 years) cheated on me a few days ago with one of her dad's best friends who was like a "father" apparently to her growing up and to boot the guy is married with 2 kids.

Awesome night!

Know the feeling. Good plan on washing your hands. The best part is when they wonder why you're not friends after, it's like really? The worst is when they owe you money still... Thank god I got that back. Good for you on KNOWING to leave. 4 years is a long time, I hope you get over it soon, and by it I mean the anger you feel.

[VoltySquirrel]

Man, woman, homosexual, heterosexual, or bisexual... always practice safe sex, and have proper health screenings every 6 months if you are sexually active. It is about taking care of yourself.

Words to live by.

[BoB Dolen]

Know the feeling. Good plan on washing your hands. The best part is when they wonder why you're not friends after, it's like really? The worst is when they owe you money still... Thank god I got that back. Good for you on KNOWING to leave. 4 years is a long time, I hope you get over it soon, and by it I mean the anger you feel.

Yea the 4 years feels like a waste in general besides the overall experience gained.

Well luckily I don't owe her money and really she just fucked herself since she has some decent debt which helping her with.

Overall don't feel so much anger as disappointment and shock of how I don't understand why and such.

Oh well, have to plan out how to tell the wife of the guy and such about it.

[VoltySquirrel]

Well luckily I don't owe her money and really she just fucked herself since she has some decent debt which helping her with.

Isn't there alimony if she didn't have a job? I mean, I know she cheated on you, but in some states it doesn't matter.

[Ackybur]

Know the feeling. Good plan on washing your hands. The best part is when they wonder why you're not friends after, it's like really? The worst is when they owe you money still... Thank god I got that back. Good for you on KNOWING to leave. 4 years is a long time, I hope you get over it soon, and by it I mean the anger you feel.

Yea the 4 years feels like a waste in general besides the overall experience gained.

Well luckily I don't owe her money and really she just fucked herself since she has some decent debt which helping her with.

Overall don't feel so much anger as disappointment and shock of how I don't understand why and such.

Oh well, have to plan out how to tell the wife of the guy and such about it.

She probably did it because she had the opportunity to. As for telling the wife...I don't think you should be the one to do it. It's very passive aggressive and you'll have to deal with the fact that you ruined a marriage. I think you need to contact him and let him know that he needs to be the one to do it, if not then you do it. Give him the chance. I know I'd never do this, but there is always a way to save a marriage if that couple wants to see a councilor. He's got two kids, don't be that hurt ex that wants to hurt the person that was just on the other end. He didn't cheat on you, she did.

[Toaster]

Well luckily I don't owe her money and really she just fucked herself since she has some decent debt which helping her with.

Isn't there alimony if she didn't have a job? I mean, I know she cheated on you, but in some states it doesn't matter.

Adultery?

Not specifically what you said but she has committed it i believe...

[Failhorse]

I stick by what i said. Drop it like it has herpes. Not to mention your probably young and shouldn't be in a long term relationship anyway.

[Hatred]

so this is my last month and a half

first i spend every cent i have to move me and the long time GF out of a bad room mate thing (yes she paid some also but i was still broke) while dealing with a working 7 days a week ... then i pay the next months rent 2 weeks early + bills ... then i quit my weekday job cause it was sooo draining and i was taking some of the greif out on her sometimes thats most of the reason i quit (yes i said sorry bought her some presents and was still able to pay for everything i needed to from weekend job alone) i'm not perfect .... a 2 weeks later i ask her to marry me cause things were getting back to normal and she breaks up with me and kicks me out of the house i dont have a weekday job, im broke cause i pay for most of the stuff around here and all alone ... thats 5 years down the drain ... and i realy dont know anyone out here ... literaly i dont know anyone other than her ... just one of those situations where its only over if its on her terms ... i'd explain further but whats the point ...

mr. dolen,
i feel your pain bro and if i could i would give u a hug right now and take you out for a couple drinks ... but i cant so ... here some advice ... it's basicaly what has been said by a few others (failhorse a couple times)

DONT TAKE HER BACK, SHE HAS DONE IT ONCE AND TAKING HER BACK MAKES HER FEEL LIKE ITS ACCEPTABLE ! SHE WILL KEEP USING U AND DOING STUFF LIKE THIS UNTIL IT SUITS HER BEST AND THEN SHE WILL DUMP U AND THAT WILL BE IT ... NOT ALL SITUATIONS ARE THE SAME BUT JUST DONT LET IT HAPPEN BRO ITS NOT WORTH THE SEX IT REALY ISNT ...

[Failhorse]

I am the king of bad relationships. I would either pick the worst possible partners, torpedo the thing myself, or pretty much just act stupid. Amazes me that I've managed a 9 year relationship now.

My worst offense was probably in my late teens. Started dating this girl who pretty much a band whore. Well i guess whores put out, especially if you give them stuff. I dragged on what should have been a 2-3 month relationship for almost 3 years. I was out of town more than home. I saw her maybe once a month. Sometimes when in town wouldn't see her at all. She never went on the road with me. And my stupidity blinding me to any better opportunity that came my way. (Ironically that included the person I'm with now. But 3 years, a marriage, and child later.) In the end neither of us could break up with one another. For me it was pretty much a comfort thing. Or knowing if she had any self esteem whatsoever I'd be out of her league

But the relationship drained me of any cohesive goodness left. I purposely started acting like an ass and made things so horrible it finally clicked for her. But she still couldn't do it. So I left never to return.

You can read all the details in my future biography.
Otherwise this was how the modern failhorse asshole was born.

Never go back. And don't second guess yourself.

[Techercizer]

Shit like this is why my ass isn't on the market for relationships. I mean, it's not the only reason, but it's one of them.

Just try and be the better person about your whole separation; what she did was wrong, big time, but revenge won't fix it, and keeping a cool and calm outlook will make her look like a total train wreck (to herself as well) if she breaks down and gets emotional about what happened.

[BoB Dolen]

mr. dolen,
i feel your pain bro and if i could i would give u a hug right now and take you out for a couple drinks ... but i cant so ... here some advice ... it's basicaly what has been said by a few others (failhorse a couple times)

DONT TAKE HER BACK, SHE HAS DONE IT ONCE AND TAKING HER BACK MAKES HER FEEL LIKE ITS ACCEPTABLE ! SHE WILL KEEP USING U AND DOING STUFF LIKE THIS UNTIL IT SUITS HER BEST AND THEN SHE WILL DUMP U AND THAT WILL BE IT ... NOT ALL SITUATIONS ARE THE SAME BUT JUST DONT LET IT HAPPEN BRO ITS NOT WORTH THE SEX IT REALY ISNT ...

Indeed, really I'm only in this same city and state till about Nov-Dec and then I'll be out of here.

Sorry you hear about your shit that went down, seems we should just hit the bar together lol.

[Toaster]

This is my relationship story, not that big of a deal, really it isn't.

[VoltySquirrel]

I play that song all the goddamn time on my Zune. Fuck iPods.