What do you think about my choice...?

[Sirnak]

Today, I had to make what certainly is, up to now at least, the hardest choice of my life.

First, my background story: I'm 22 years old, hard worker and volunteer myself for a lot of community works almost nobody wants to do. My entire life was dedicated to help youngsters in a multiple different ways. I work really hard when I get to work and can do more than 12+ consecutive hours without pauses without complaining. I never complain. I train really hard, I try to read as much as possible and I never allowed myself to have a real love relationship up to now. When a work needs to be done, I'll do it. I'll always sacrifice my time if someone needs me.

Recently, I just took the first REALLY egocentric decision of my life (or at least, what I think is...) I was (and still am) about to go homeless recently but a friend offered to me to share a room with him. A nice offer, seriously. This appartment has 3 rooms. 1 is occupied by his sister, 1 by my friend and the last one is occupied by some boxes (a good quantity of boxes, though I have yet to see how many there are). Every person closes to me told me I couldn't possibly accept to share a room with another guy. They said stuff about privacy and things like that. They said I could find a better place to live, which may be true (but you have to consider that, by this time of the year, almost all appartments are full in the city). I called the owner of the appartment this afternoon and I arranged a meeting with her about the possibility of her to free this third room of all her boxes so I could live in it.

The problem is... Where would these boxes go? In the appartment. If she empties this room, she needs to put these boxes somewhere else in this appartment. Which means it'll affect the life of the two people actually living there drastically IF the owner accepts this deal (she says there are A LOT of boxes...).

I took a decision like that without talking to the two people already living there. I just phoned them a bit earlier to warn them of what I did and to explain why I arranged this rendez-vous with the owner of the appartment... They kinda agreed with what I did... Which doesn't mean I had any right in the matter.

So my question to Critsandvich is... Was what I did justified or not? Did I really have to do that?

My sense of moral of tingling right now and I want to do what is as right as possible... And since I can't share this story with anyone around me in real life if I don't want tons of rumors to go around me... I ask you, Critsandvich. Please tell me what is the decision I could make with the greatest sense of justice. Please.

[Ackybur]

I live in a house with 3 other people. It's a 6 bedroom 3 bath house. I have my own bathroom. Still not enough room. You'll hate it rooming with someone by choice.

[VoltySquirrel]

I live in a house with 3 other people. It's a 6 bedroom 3 bath house. I have my own bathroom. Still not enough room. You'll hate it rooming with someone by choice.

Plus you live in Utah.

[LegendarySurgeon]

Rather a lot of boxes. If the boxes don't belong to the two people who are living there; they're just.. boxes? Then I think what you did sounds okay. I think you probably did the right thing. It's okay to accept favors from other people.

[Techercizer]

I say you should tackle each element of this problem by itself, in my personal opinion.

If you're worried about imposing on the people who live there, see if you can help out around the place to make it up on the weekends or when you're free.

If you're worried about the boxes, find what's in them, and come up with a plan for allocating their contents in a way that's convenient for everyone. Some of them might be almost empty, some might be full of things nobody even wants any more, and some might be things that could be placed somewhere unobtrusive without many difficulties.

Whether you did the right thing or not is up to you, because you haven't finished "doing" it yet; you've got plenty of time while you get back on your feet to try and make this living experience as reasonable for everyone involved as is possible. If you're worried about just occupying the space, I think your mate would take you being homeless really tough; you did him a favor too by letting him help.

[Spyder]

I frankly don't see what the fuss is about.

[Patrid]

I live in an off campus house with 7 other guys... sharing a decent room with 2 of em'. If they're friendly, everything will be fine =)

[VoltySquirrel]

I frankly don't see what the fuss is about.

I kind of agree. I didn't get the story. I don't really see how it is selfish for you to not want to either A) share a room with a dude or B) sleep in a room full of boxes. You should be able to sleep in comfort.

[Maringue]

Solution: Storage unit. They are fairly cheap (a shit load cheaper than rent) and will free up that room for you. I'm guessing since all this stuff is sitting in boxes it doesn't get used all that much. You could probably get a storage unit for 30 bucks a month.

Problem solved, you're welcome.

[Echoplex]

Yep, storage space is the way to do it. They're mostly all climate controlled nowadays so no need to worry about grandma's heirlooms depreciating. You could even offer to haul everything down and set up the storage area if you're feeling feeling guilty about imposing. Look around for coupons and deals, I've gotten a free month at both facilities that I used with my family

[VoltySquirrel]

Yep, storage space is the way to do it. They're mostly all climate controlled nowadays so no need to worry about grandma's heirlooms depreciating. You could even offer to haul everything down and set up the storage area if you're feeling feeling guilty about imposing. Look around for coupons and deals, I've gotten a free month at both facilities that I used with my family

Just make sure to get your shit out of there in time or else your unit might appear on what is now the two most addictive guilty pleasure shows on TV that I love some so reason.

[Maringue]

Yep, storage space is the way to do it. They're mostly all climate controlled nowadays so no need to worry about grandma's heirlooms depreciating. You could even offer to haul everything down and set up the storage area if you're feeling feeling guilty about imposing. Look around for coupons and deals, I've gotten a free month at both facilities that I used with my family

Just make sure to get your shit out of there in time or else your unit might appear on what is now the two most addictive guilty pleasure shows on TV that I love some so reason.

My girlfriend LOVES that shit. Luckily I can tolerate it as long as we haven't seen the episode before.

[VoltySquirrel]

Yep, storage space is the way to do it. They're mostly all climate controlled nowadays so no need to worry about grandma's heirlooms depreciating. You could even offer to haul everything down and set up the storage area if you're feeling feeling guilty about imposing. Look around for coupons and deals, I've gotten a free month at both facilities that I used with my family

Just make sure to get your shit out of there in time or else your unit might appear on what is now the two most addictive guilty pleasure shows on TV that I love some so reason.

My girlfriend LOVES that shit. Luckily I can tolerate it as long as we haven't seen the episode before.

I don't know why I can't stop watching Storage Wars, Auction Hunters, Pawn Stars, and American Pickers. I'm a slave to shows about people buying shit and selling it for a huge profit.